How to find a Femdom Girlfriend – What Really Works

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A short text with tips on how to find a dominant girlfriend. I speak from my own experience and can confirm that a Female Lead Relationship(FLR) is not easy to find. But it is definitely possible!

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It may seem hard, but you have to start somewhere

I am fully aware that having a Female Lead Relationship (FLR) is anything but common. Many submissive men dream about having a dominant girlfriend. The reality is often different. I also thought that it was impossible to find a dominant woman who can show her dominant side in a relationship. But that’s not true! It takes a lot of work, but with some effort everyone can achieve this goal.

It would make me very happy if more submissive men found a dominant partner. So I‘d like to share my tips with you here. It took me some time to find mine, but in the end only the results matter. And that is a wonderful mistress who has also become my girlfriend. As a sub, you can’t be more proud.

Read about my own experiences:

Tip 1: Search on BDSM platforms

This first tip is also the most important one. I’ve tried many dating platforms like Tinder or Lovoo. The problem has always been the same: it was not possible to search explicitly for sexual preferences and fetishes. Without such a filter, you are looking for the well-known needle in a haystack. After all, we don’t want a vanilla girlfriend, we want a Femdom girlfriend.

When choosing dating platforms you can easily fall for scams and dubious offers. Caution is always advised when the advertising is too aggressive. For example: “20 Femdoms within a radius of 3 miles”. Every sub knows that this can only be a dream. You should also be suspicious of sites that consist only of fake profiles.

I searched on many platforms and unfortunately spent a lot of money doing so. But you don’t have to make the same mistakes as I did. In the end, I discovered some sites that were very helpful in finding a Femdom girlfriend.

BDSM.com

On this page you can filter specifically for women with a dominant attitude. In addition, users have to verify their data. Of course, this works completely discrete and anonymous. Fake profiles can thus be easily avoided. 

The good thing is that a standard membership is free. Given the real chance of finding your dream Femdom girlfriend, it is totally worth it, but of course, you have to decide that for yourself. You can register here…

If you are interested I would be happy to write an article about what is most important in order to find your perfect Femdom girlfriend. I can also tell you which cities are particularly well represented. Let me know in the comments.

Dommez and JOY-Club

Also promising newcomers are Dommez and JOY-Club. I haven’t had the time yet to check them out by myself. Maybe some could share their experiences in the comments.

Tip 2: Take nice pictures for your profile

Good pictures are the end-all and be-all. Especially on online platforms where you can’t use your charisma. So take some effort. That doesn’t mean that you should hire a professional photographer, although of course, that would help tremendously. 

It is enough if you make sure that your haircut is done and your beard is trimmed properly. If you have a fetish outfit, put it on! You can show some experience by doing that. But be careful, no Femdom wants to see your dick! Above all, pay attention to the background of your pictures. Nobody wants to see a sloppy room, as that would turn off most women. The same applies to a dirty mirror.

By the way, it is totally natural to be concerned about showing your face on some BDSM dating platforms. So I have a little extra tip for you: Wear a mask, but please no scary ones! What about a nice doggy mask instead?

Tip 3: Think carefully about what you want

Even if you are looking for a dominant woman, that does not mean you don’t have to do anything. You should think carefully about what you are looking for in advance. 

Are you looking for a keyholder, a hotwife, or a sadist? Do you want a one-time session or a relationship? What can you offer? Be able to articulate your ideas clearly. The same applies to your preferences! The best thing to do when you make the first contact is to write about what you expect and what you can contribute yourself.

Tip 4: This is all about the Femdom

You should be aware that this is only about the wishes and needs of the lady. Please tuck your lust away. You cannot expect to find a private dominatrix who will save you the trip to a professional one. 

So make sure that your sexual desire is not the most important thing in the beginning. Patience and consistency are much more required. First, prove yourself online and don’t ask for a real session immediately. It takes much more trust for BDSM than it does for a vanilla relationship.

Tip 5: Get active

As with normal dating, you have to take the initiative. You cannot expect to be contacted by Femdoms. There are probably 100 submissive men for every one Femdom out there. So you have to work hard and conquer the lady. Don’t think dominant women will seduce you. You can wait forever for that to happen.

Summary

I hope these tips give you a bit of a clue on how to find your first Femdom girlfriend. Every beginning is difficult, but not impossible. I was once at the point where you are now. But I can tell you from personal experience that it’s worth the effort. At one point a 20-year-old young lady made me her toy at BDSM.com. It was totally worth it. I never thought I would have a dominant girlfriend now. But if I can do it, you can too!

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