Femdom Dating on Tinder - How It Works

How do you find a dominant woman on Tinder? My successful experiment with kinky ladies on Tinder.

The project

I think all submissive men have heard the same thing many times: There are many more dominant women than you’d think, but most of them don’t dare to register on platforms like JoyClub or BDSM.com.

I’ve heard that often, and I completely agree. But then how do you find those women if they do not join any kink-related platforms? I recently conducted an experiment and would like to report my findings in this blog post.

It’s been a while since I’ve created a special Tinder profile. I wanted one that outed myself as a submissive man and that was aimed specifically at dominant women. Due to Tinder’s guidelines, which generally discourage discussion of fetish and kink, I had no hopes for the profile’s long-term existence.

I was convinced my profile would certainly be deleted immediately. But I learned better – eventually.

At the beginning, you have to ask yourself, What do I want to achieve with a kinky profile on Tinder? In my case, I wanted the profile to appeal to women who define themselves as dominant, have no problem with submissive men, have some form of interest in the abbreviation FLR, and generally have no fetish allergy. So far, so good!

The right pictures

After that, I had to think about the right pictures for my profile. I wanted to keep the whole thing as anonymous as possible so I wouldn’t be recognized immediately if friends and work colleagues chanced upon the profile. I think this attitude is understandable.

I therefore decided to include only pre-existing generic pictures related to femdom.

A leashed and kneeling man, for example, or a lady sitting on a throne and getting her feet kissed. I think your choice of pictures is where you can let his personal preferences guide you. However, it is important that the pictures do not contain naked genitals or clearly sexual innuendos, otherwise, your profile can be banned. Take a look at these example pictures:

The correct description

Of course, pictures alone are not enough for a match. Just having pictures – especially very provocative pictures –can quickly deter some women; that’s why it’s important to add a good profile description.

Once women see your pictures and become curious, they’ll want to look at the profile a little more closely, which is why it is important to include a meaningful bio.

You should clearly state what you are looking for and what you want! Even dominant women appreciate a sub who knows what he wants. After all, they are not looking for a child.

The description should also stress that you’ll provide a facial image immediately when a match is made. Anonymity and discretion are important, but no one wants to start a chat with a phantom – that’s creepy. What exactly you write in the description is up to you and your creativity. You should definitely stay away from “08/15” or overused copy-paste lines.

After the match

After I had my first match, I unfortunately found out that you can’t send pictures on Tinder. Though, thinking about it, that’s probably a good thing, as millions of dick pics would be sent otherwise.

But there are different ways to send a face picture to the lady anyway. You could share your Instagram account, which of course requires a certain amount of trust. Another option would be to upload a collection of images to Google Drive and share a public link. But you can also offer to switch to a messaging service like Telegram, so you can send each other pictures and voice messages without having to share phone numbers.

Conclusion and insider tip

I’ve been running my malesub profile for three months now, and my experience has been quite positive. There have been significantly more matches than expected, which resulted in making a couple interesting acquaintances and new contacts. I won’t reveal any more at this point, except that this experiment proved to be completely worthwhile.

One unfortunate thing I noticed was that some ladies see submissive men as walking purses. I would estimate 20% of all my matches and requests were purely financial. “Buy me clothes!” and “How much do you pay to be dominated” were two common requests. While findom is not one of my fetishes, if it is yours, just mention that in your profile and you’ll certainly find some options.

For anyone worried that they might be discovered by friends or acquaintances, I have another secret tip – though it comes at a cost.

You can simply get yourself a Tinder Gold membership, because this gives you two crucial advantages. Firstly, you can set the app to only show you people you’ve already liked. Secondly, you will be shown who has already liked you. This lets you play it safe and decide for yourself before each match if you really want to pick them. It doesn’t get more anonymous than that, does it?

I hope you make a lot of fun and nice acquaintances!